What really exists when the shell is no more?


I had a realization today. One that blew my mind!

I am not only that which I appear to be I am. I am not just one person. Maybe in physical form, yes. But in the non physical realm, i do exist. And I wonder just how many roles I am playing. How many beings have I come across in this lifetime / reality that are my playmates in other realities?

What is it that my being (my spirit/ higher self) is striving for?

I’ve realized that the physical is just an experience. For so long I have made this reality so significant that I wasn’t aware of all the other possibilities that exist. What if this physical reality is just a fraction of what my being is experiencing as a whole!

So my question to you is, if you aren’t defined by your name, your family, your work, your reality, who and what would you be and choose?

How significant are we making this reality? Would it create more to to be curious in every moment? Curious of what we are looking at. Is everything exactly as it seems? Or, are simply unwilling to look at what really is!

What would create more ease to make this physical experience a fun one?




Here’s the secret to change everything!

Access Bars is like a magic pill that once you’ve had it keeps working. It starts to create change in all the areas that were previously stuck, stagnated and unconsciously driven.

Disclaimer: Once you get your bars run, you can’t go back to being unaware and unconscious!

I wanted to share my first experience with Access Bars!

It was 2014 and I had just come in touch with metaphysics. I thought this would change everything! But guess what, I wasn’t really choosing to change anything, coz somewhere feeling like I am the victim of past events, of how my childhood was and all those stories to the responsibility of creating my own reality away.

It’s easy to just say . Ah! That happened to me growing up and so that caused all those beliefs that drive everything in my life. Let’s erase all that!

And so I continued to do that for a good year or so, and started to realise that not much was shifting or changing. Ofcourse I was changing as a person, in how I operated and in being more in touch with myself; but it wasn’t changing much in the areas that I so wanted to see change.

At one point I had enough and was starting to feel that this path I’d chosen wasn’t working for me anymore. And I stopped. I just said no to being depressed because of all the past stories.

So in October 2014 I saw a FaceBook post a friend had made mentioning how refreshed she feels after a session of Access Bars and that it brings a new level of focus. concentration and drive to her work. Here I was struggling with focusing on my studies for an exam I had postponed a couple of times before. So I thought why not! And I went for a session of Access Bars!

I lay on the massage table and asked the practitioner if she wanted to know what was going on etc. She said – Oh only if you feel like.
So I started to talk and she was going about “running my bars”. I don’t really know when i stopped talking and slipped into a really deep sleep. I woke up and hour or so later and wondered what this session was about. Coz I didn’t cry; she didn’t walk me through my early years to find out what’s really wrong. So i was like huh, I wonder what I gained from this session. I paid her the amount due for the session and went home.
Once home, I decided to try a meditation. I surprised myself with how deep I went into the meditation. Not a single thought to disturb me.
Next few days I simply focused on my studies. The big change I did notice that I was far more happier than usual. Than I’d ever been perhaps. And there wasn’t anything specific that was making me this happy. Wow, right?
Little did I know that one session would start to change the course of my life!

Closer to the exam I went for another session with an Access Consciousness Facilitator. Not only did she run my Bars, she also did some Symphony of Possibilities work. I was in a blissed out state after that! Kept on studying for the exam. A day before the exam I froze. I simply sat with my book for a good 3 hours. I panicked and messaged the Access Consciousness Facilitator to help me. She was kind enough to call me and facilitate me over the phone with questions, verbal clearings and energetic contributions. It changed my state immediately. I went back and peacefully studied what I could. Went to the exam the next day, still calm. Sat through 4 hours of the exam with complete peace, calm, focus and attention. Came out with a big fat smile on my face. I knew I had aced it. Six weeks later, the result confirmed the same.

And the changes that have showed up in all other areas of my life are worth mention too but perhaps another time!

These experiences inspired me enough to become an Access Bars Facilitator and be able to put it out there for whoever would choose to learn this and have the benefits of Access Bars in their lives. It’s perhaps the best gift I gave myself.

I offer sessions and classes in Dubai and other Emirates as well as in Mumbai. If this post inspired you to check it out for yourself, feel free to reach me at the following coordinates:
Email: abeer.accessconsciousness@gmail.com
Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/healsparkleshine/
Website: http://hakimabeer.wixsite.com/website-3


Choosing a new reality 

Never did it occur to me that all it takes is choice. To get out of the stuckness all you have to do is choose something different. Anything. Choose. 

How many of us sleepwalk through life believing that we must live according to this reality and the way life is done. Leaving us stuck and dissatisfied.

Did it ever occur to you that dissatisfaction is actually an indication that your being knows a greater possibility exists? 

How about asking the universe to show you these possibilities rather than accepting this reality as fixed and solid? Nothing is fixed and solid. Not even the wall u see in front of you. 

You’re energy, I’m energy, everything is energy. What looks solid is also changeable, if we are able to look at it as so. You can change everything as you go along. Change is the only constant 🙂 

As Gary Douglas, founder of Access Consciousness® says , choice creates awareness, awareness does not create choice. 

That’s some food for thought isn’t it? 

Just choose and you will get the awareness. If it doesn’t work for you, choose again. What’s stopping you? 

Love, relationships and complications…

As per Merriam-Webster dictionary;


: a feeling of strong or constant affection for a person

: attraction that includes sexual desire : the strong affection felt by people who have a romantic relationship

: a person you love in a romantic way

I have been questioning what love really is… is it what I felt when I “fell in love” with my man… or is it what I feel now when neither of us need to go out of the way to make things happen.

Why do people change as the relationship gets older? Relationships can get as complicated as you make it or as simple as you would like… it’s all in the mind isn’t it? trouble is when you start using relationships as a means to an end. why does something that start out (looking beautiful at the outset) turn into something so ugly?

Love is meant to be unconditional. Anything that is not, does not classify as love. Its the purest form of energy. When it gets mixed up with conditions, manipulation, ego, narcissism, it becomes something else.

It helps to take a good look at your own behaviour and that of your partners to know when something is going off track. Address the issue before it becomes unmanageable and before either one becomes a victim.

There are a lot of red flags for emotional abuse and other distractors. Don’t tune into that… but be aware. Relationships are a result of love, time and effort. Awareness and a good conscience can help in maintaining a healthy balance 🙂

Some links I found to be a good read are listed below:


21 Warning Signs of an Emotionally Abusive Relationship

30 Signs Of Emotional Abuse In A Relationship

How To Stop Being Manipulated by Narcissists

Love & Light!

When in doubt stay put…

I was so sure about what I wanted to do until a tiny little voice inside of me said ..but… 

And that tiny voice was just trying to protect me and watch out for my highest and best I guess .. So I listened and paused…

And now I trust and wait for the good stuff to unfold … 🙂 

If you love someone, set them free…

“If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they’re yours; if they don’t they never were.” 

This couldn’t be any truer. How often have we been in relationships that then become binding? Would you be in your existing relationship if you knew you didn’t have to? 

Relationships are always changing – whether it’s friends, lovers or siblings. Always evolving, drifting apart or growing closer. 

What happens when ur drifting apart but you have to live up to that commitment/expectation. When the relationship you once cherished starts to feel like a burden…. 

I’ve most certainly experienced friendships where we drifted apart. I still love those friends dearly and hold them very close in my heart. However, they don’t necessarily have to be in my paradigm for me to love them unconditionally. 

And that holds true for soulmates too! It’s tough to reason with letting them free when you so don’t want to … ! But letting go of the inner struggle is the best way to go. 

Coz it’s their journey and free will which must be honored and respected. And this, has to be the most significant of all lessons I have learnt thus far. And not to forget… Unconditional love. No expectations 🙂 Vedanta! ❤️

Spare yourself – Forgive!

Like they say “Forgiveness does not make the forgiver superior”… so it is! The sooner you realize what a favour you’re doing to yourself by forgiving, the more you will want to forgive with all your heart.

Oh it wasn’t easy before, but when I realized how much space and weight it holds, I wanted nothing more than to forgive, release and forget. Yes, in that particular order. 🙂

Here’s a silent forgiveness mantra for you to help you forgive:


Need a little more than love? 

Love is unconditional. All is fair in love and war. Love is not materialistic. Love doesn’t see boundaries or riches. I know all that. 

But when it comes to real tangible life, it’s good to have more than just feelings sustaining the love. I’m sure you get what I mean. 

Having been giving the whole time, without expectation and unconditionally, it hits me once in a while. When I want to be pampered, taken care of and treated like royalty. Who doesn’t want that, right?  Not everyday, just once in a while. Being independent most of my grown up life, I’ve taken care of every single need of mine. When, when, when does someone else chip in to say, hey … Chill and let me handle it. Or just give me what I want rather than make me feel like I don’t deserve it. I know I’m worth it, and a lot more. 

As I ramble on, I have a mental list of what I need to clear in my next digging session. 

Thank you creator, the almighty, Allah! 

The point is: 

Is it wrong to have expectations? 

Do u continually keep giving? 

Where does one draw the line ? 

Absence makes the heart grow fonder.


Its true. Absence does make the heart grow fonder. Wouldn’t you agree? A little distance is key in relationships. All kinds of ’em. It makes you reflect on the good stuff. What you love about them, how their presence makes you feel and how you miss them with every bit of their annoyances. Clearly I’m missing someone very much right now! 💖

However continuous absence may make the heart go yonder 😉   

Which of the two do u relate to more? 

A. Absence makes the heart grow fonder 


B. Out of sight, out of mind 

Do leave your comments below 🙂 

Do the Dukan – Day 2

Day 2! Yayy… some success after a long hiatus of procrastinating and hibernating… i pride myself on getting this started. Yes you must wonder .. seriously? But hellooo… walk in my shoes and you will know exactly how hard it was to get motivated and on it…!

I completed 2 whole days without goofing up. No carbs! None. Whatsoever!

This phase is supposed to last 3 days but I will stretch it to 5. Faster results, always better.